I've found myself increasingly reluctant to write and share my views. The main reason is that I've noticed a phenomenon: if our understanding is not on the same level, our "ideas" are not easily understood and may even be misinterpreted. Rather than spending time explaining to most people with different understandings, I'd rather keep my views to myself and communicate with the right people when I meet them.
I used to enjoy explaining superficial phenomena, partly because it gave me a sense of superiority, and partly because I thought it could help some people. But now I'm slowly realizing that it's meaningless. From the post-90s generation to the post-95s, and then to the post-00s and post-10s, generation after generation walks similar paths. Our predecessors have recorded their life lessons to warn future generations. But there are countless ways for those destined to fall into misconceptions, and a hundred ways for those destined to awaken to these truths.
In comparison, deep thinking is more valuable. However, the content of deep thinking is not something everyone can understand. People with different perspectives and different understandings will arrive at completely different results when thinking about the same thing. So... let's not waste time explaining this further; I'll just keep it to myself.
I recently saw a description on Douyin that I think perfectly describes my current situation: "I'm good to whoever is good to me, and I don't want to maintain relationships that are even slightly tiring. It's not because I've lost the ability to get along with people, but because I've lost the interest in playing along with others."
Communication is always a complex art. First, you need to understand yourself, and then you need to understand others. Otherwise, the person you speak to will not be the real you, and the person others perceive will be a completely different person. The same applies to the other person; when six different versions of yourself are communicating between two people, the difficulty is unimaginable. When you're tired, sleep; when you're full, do something you enjoy. Why wallow in the sadness of not being able to persuade others?
Humans can never understand the world and values beyond their own perceptions, which is why they repeatedly rebuild and affirm their own prejudices and indulge in wishful thinking.
This is how hierarchies gradually emerge. To break through them, one must experience and reflect.
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Comment list (6 items)
1. Just say it. If you don't, you won't even have a way to actively screen the people around you.
2. Actually, I still feel a bit confused and haven't figured things out yet. My own understanding of what it means to have figured things out is that I've considered almost all the options, and in the end, I can only choose one that I can accept, and then I can do it with a clear conscience.
3. Bro, your group idea is great! We're just waiting for you to give the call to action and get it going.
@xiang：I've looked into it, and it's not easy. Those with similar needs form smaller groups, while those with different needs have their own, making it difficult to satisfy everyone.
I feel the same way. We may seem like the same people, but we live in different worlds.
@anonymous：That's good; life is diverse and colorful, with everyone living their own lives. Otherwise, if everything were too uniform, the world would become monotonous.
Unfortunately, perhaps your level of understanding is not high enough, which is why you are confused? For example, are your most basic values and understanding of the world and society too one-sided?
@123：might be